There is a part of a wedding ceremony, where The Bride and The Groom look at each other and repeat vows to each other as prompted by the marriage celebrant. They go something like this (I'll use "Bride" and "Groom" where actual names should be):
I, Bride,
take you, Groom,
to be my wedded husband.
To have and to hold
from this day forward
for better, for worse
for richer, for poorer
in sickness, and in health
I promise to love you,
Cherish you,
And be faithful to you,
For as long as we both shall live.
The amount of words I say for them to repeat at one time often depends on their nervousness, and in the case of non-native-English speakers, their comfort with English. Sometimes I break the last line up in to much smaller pieces ... "for as long" ... "as we both" ... "shall live." Sometimes, I don't. Sometimes, I wish I had.
Recently, while performing a ceremony for non-native English speakers, after having the English-as-a-second-language Bride repeat "for as long as we both shall live" ... I followed with "I was afraid that might be too long" meaning the number of words for her comfort level with English, not for the period of time they should love & live.
Thankfully it was just the 3 of us and they both had a good sense of humor.
For the record, she did just fine. I wish I could say the same for me.
I perform civil marriage ceremonies & get to witness some very beautiful moments. Occasionally, entwined in these beautiful moments are the darnedest things: something said, something not said, something that happens. This collection of stories is in no way associated with one couple, one person, or one moment. These are my interpretations, my recollections, my musings. Nothing here is meant to embarrass, humiliate, or judge anyone or any one situation. I hope you enjoy.
Monday, July 25, 2011
... and sometimes it's the celebrant that makes the faux pas!
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That's hilarious! Just made me laugh out loud!
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