EIGHT MEN OUT!
~ also known as eight valentines day weddings which included two spontaneous cases of "love is in the air"
One off-site at what is becoming my wedding hall of sorts, my favorite local restaurant/bar/hangout, it's like my living room ... and ...
... one on the sidewalk outside because (a) they were late for their
appointment - well, the bride and groom were almost on time ~ the
mothers, not so much, which required juggling and squeezing them in to a
later time slot ... and (b) they were
so freaking loud there wasn't a chance I was disrupting the office that
much ~ you could hear them in the back of the building even when they
were outside!
... the rest of my day included the blurt-it-groom (see earlier blog post, ironically called the Blurt-it-out Groom);
... a groom that decided they would take the half an hour later time
slot after booking the earlier one & let me know by voice mail at 8
AM this morning (without asking if that slot was still available);
... three delightful couples so clearly in love that it reminded me why
I do this (one of which had many guests and a professional photographer
- the other two were "just us" weddings ~ <see blog post by same name> my very favorite kind, the
ones where you never have to ask why ♥ ) ...
.... and one guest who couldn't stop telling me how wonderful my ceremony is and how it truly inspired him.
♥ Now, off to treat myself with a beverage that is NOT on my no carb,
no sugar, no alcohol diet and then home with my snuggly little
valentine pup.
♥ oddly enough both have the same name ♥
Hope today and every day is full of love for each of you!
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Monday, October 28, 2013
Friday, June 21, 2013
Consummating ...
Currently my favorite actual voice mail message:
"Hi, this is ---. We just obtained our marriage license today and we're trying to see if you have availability today or as soon as possible, if we could go ahead and get it consummated."
Friday, June 7, 2013
Missed call ...
Actual message:
"Hi, this is Love. I'm calling to see if you are available to perform a wedding today or tomorrow ..."
**Caller ID shows a Missed Call from Love. Story of my life ......
________________
Monday, June 3, 2013
I'm thinking if you don't know what to call it. You probably shouldn't be doing it....
Actual message:
"Hi, this is ---. I'm calling to confirm that you are scheduled on --- to officiate our, umm, I don't what that would be considered, but we're getting married with you on ---."
**Another one of those moments I'm glad it was a voice mail, and not an actual conversation or I may have said something like ... umm, yeah, it's called a wedding, duh. I'm scheduled to officiate YOUR WEDDING.
_____________
Actual message:
"Hi, this is --, I'm wondering if you're available to do ... a what? ... (then I hear her talking to the fiance' presumably "Babe, what is it a wedding? Is that what it is?") ... okay, yeah, I'm wondering if you're available to do a wedding?"
_____________
**I'm thinking, if you don't know what to call it. You probably shouldn't be doing it.
_____________
Thursday, February 7, 2013
JUST US wedding trend ...
I don't usually post links to articles, but this one struck me today ~ so I felt inclined to write about it.
I have performed more than a few of these - funny how people mock them (and often judge what I do) when in all actuality, many of my weddings are what they should be about: the bride & groom ... not the reception, the guests, the invitations, etc. That's what the celebration party should be for .... I find the same people that judge these types of weddings are also the kind that prefer "the show" type of wedding. I perform those as well. The only difference between me and the church/synagogue/etc. weddings y'all attend - is mine do not include any form of religion. Mine are SOLELY about the bride and groom.
* your wedding day should be whatever you want it to be ~ don't do what is expected or what other people want or have ~ unless that is what YOU, the Bride and Groom, want.
Just my two cents.
_____________________________________________________________________
http://thelook.today.com/_news/2013/02/01/16790997-just-us-wedding-trend-couples-ditch-the-guests?lite
By Wendy Grossman Kantor, TODAY contributor
Marybeth Eustice had been engaged for six years, having repeatedly pushed the wedding date off. Whenever she thought about planning her wedding, she was overcome by stress. Even deciding who to choose for her bridesmaids seemed like a burden.
Then last November, the couple decided to finally get married — but not invite anyone.
"We just wanted it to be about us," said Eustice, a 29-year-old dental assistant from Orlando, Florida. "At big weddings, I noticed the bride and groom are entertaining the guests and don't get to spend a lot of time with each other — we love spending time together. And, it's really about [us] at the end of the day."
Weddings-for-two, as bridal planners call them, are a growing trend, says Kelly Karli, owner of Frosted Pink Weddings in Vail, Colorado. "It's been popping up more and more," Karli told TODAY.com.
Less is more?
With the struggling economy, couples still want to get married — and they want more than a courthouse elopement. Brides want an expensive dress, a beautiful bouquet, a photographer and flowers. But one expense some couples are willing to cut? The guests.
One bonus of planning a "just us" wedding is that you have a lot more leeway in the budget, Karli explained.
"You're able to have a really great dinner and the best filet or the best wine," she said. "You're able to have the wedding that you want."
But the biggest bonus, she says, is that there's zero stress. They don't have to deal with a seating chart, feuding relatives, an uncle who can't eat what's on the menu, or a grandmother who hates the centerpieces.
Las
Vegas wedding planner Andrea Eppolito loves planning these smaller
weddings so much she decided to have one herself this past fall.
"It's one of my favorite trends," said the 35-year-old newlywed. "It's about you, your life, your relationship, and what matters to the two of you. At the end of the day, it's what your marriage should be about."
Eppolito didn't want to have a big reception two months after having a baby – especially since her father isn't able to travel to give her away. But she still ordered an Ulla-Maija couture gown, had her hair and makeup done, booked a florist and selected a lavish menu at the Four Seasons Las Vegas.
Maybe in a year, she said, she'll throw a black-tie reception and invite all the friends and family.
"Then I'll wear a Vera," she says. "Or a Reem Acra."
'You're going to regret it someday'
Still, not everyone's family is on board with the trend. Elementary school teacher Amanda Mace's parents expressed their disappointment at not receiving an invitation.
"I'm their only daughter," said Mace, 33, of Elmira, New York. And although her dad wants to walk her down the aisle, Mace and her fiancé are exploring venues for a no-guest-wedding, ranging from Central Park to the Caribbean.
"My mom and dad's big concern is, 'we're worried you're going to regret it someday,'" Mace said. "I'm kind of a shy person. I don't need the spotlight on me... I want the memory of just the two of us."
Leigh McLeod, 35, watched her sister deal with planning a big reception. The more she thought about it, the more McLeod realized she wanted to be married more than to have an over-the-top wedding.
"I didn't want to wait," says McLeod, a 35-year-old assistant teacher from Columbia, S.C. "I just wanted to be with him."
Last October, McLeod bought a wedding gown, picked a bouquet — and the week after her fiance's divorce was final, they married, just the two of them.
While driving to their venue, McLeod received a text message from her sister with the message: "I'm jealous. I really wish I had done what you're doing."
I have performed more than a few of these - funny how people mock them (and often judge what I do) when in all actuality, many of my weddings are what they should be about: the bride & groom ... not the reception, the guests, the invitations, etc. That's what the celebration party should be for .... I find the same people that judge these types of weddings are also the kind that prefer "the show" type of wedding. I perform those as well. The only difference between me and the church/synagogue/etc. weddings y'all attend - is mine do not include any form of religion. Mine are SOLELY about the bride and groom.
* your wedding day should be whatever you want it to be ~ don't do what is expected or what other people want or have ~ unless that is what YOU, the Bride and Groom, want.
Just my two cents.
_____________________________________________________________________
http://thelook.today.com/_news/2013/02/01/16790997-just-us-wedding-trend-couples-ditch-the-guests?lite
'Just us' wedding trend: Couples ditch the guests
Getty Images stock
Bride and groom only? Some couples are throwing lavish weddings for themselves, without friends or family.
Marybeth Eustice had been engaged for six years, having repeatedly pushed the wedding date off. Whenever she thought about planning her wedding, she was overcome by stress. Even deciding who to choose for her bridesmaids seemed like a burden.
Then last November, the couple decided to finally get married — but not invite anyone.
"We just wanted it to be about us," said Eustice, a 29-year-old dental assistant from Orlando, Florida. "At big weddings, I noticed the bride and groom are entertaining the guests and don't get to spend a lot of time with each other — we love spending time together. And, it's really about [us] at the end of the day."
Weddings-for-two, as bridal planners call them, are a growing trend, says Kelly Karli, owner of Frosted Pink Weddings in Vail, Colorado. "It's been popping up more and more," Karli told TODAY.com.
Less is more?
With the struggling economy, couples still want to get married — and they want more than a courthouse elopement. Brides want an expensive dress, a beautiful bouquet, a photographer and flowers. But one expense some couples are willing to cut? The guests.
One bonus of planning a "just us" wedding is that you have a lot more leeway in the budget, Karli explained.
"You're able to have a really great dinner and the best filet or the best wine," she said. "You're able to have the wedding that you want."
But the biggest bonus, she says, is that there's zero stress. They don't have to deal with a seating chart, feuding relatives, an uncle who can't eat what's on the menu, or a grandmother who hates the centerpieces.
MaryBeth Eustice
Of her fall nuptials, MaryBeth Eustice said "We just wanted it to be about us."
Courtesy Andrea Eppolito
Andrea Eppolito planned a lavish wedding at the Four Seasons Las Vegas for just herself, her husband, and her baby.
"It's one of my favorite trends," said the 35-year-old newlywed. "It's about you, your life, your relationship, and what matters to the two of you. At the end of the day, it's what your marriage should be about."
Eppolito didn't want to have a big reception two months after having a baby – especially since her father isn't able to travel to give her away. But she still ordered an Ulla-Maija couture gown, had her hair and makeup done, booked a florist and selected a lavish menu at the Four Seasons Las Vegas.
Maybe in a year, she said, she'll throw a black-tie reception and invite all the friends and family.
"Then I'll wear a Vera," she says. "Or a Reem Acra."
'You're going to regret it someday'
Still, not everyone's family is on board with the trend. Elementary school teacher Amanda Mace's parents expressed their disappointment at not receiving an invitation.
"I'm their only daughter," said Mace, 33, of Elmira, New York. And although her dad wants to walk her down the aisle, Mace and her fiancé are exploring venues for a no-guest-wedding, ranging from Central Park to the Caribbean.
"My mom and dad's big concern is, 'we're worried you're going to regret it someday,'" Mace said. "I'm kind of a shy person. I don't need the spotlight on me... I want the memory of just the two of us."
Leigh McLeod, 35, watched her sister deal with planning a big reception. The more she thought about it, the more McLeod realized she wanted to be married more than to have an over-the-top wedding.
"I didn't want to wait," says McLeod, a 35-year-old assistant teacher from Columbia, S.C. "I just wanted to be with him."
Last October, McLeod bought a wedding gown, picked a bouquet — and the week after her fiance's divorce was final, they married, just the two of them.
While driving to their venue, McLeod received a text message from her sister with the message: "I'm jealous. I really wish I had done what you're doing."
Thursday, January 26, 2012
For as long as we both shall ...
Her: Do you say "til death do us part" in the vows?
Me: I can, if you want me to.
Her: No, that's okay - I mean obviously we know it ends in death.
Me: I usually say "as long as we both shall live."
Her: Oh, can we change that? I mean, you can live a long time and we all know that people fall out of love with each other. Can we change live, to love?
Me: Okay, so you want me to say "as long as we both shall love."
Her: Yeah, I mean, let's be real here.
Me: I can, if you want me to.
Her: No, that's okay - I mean obviously we know it ends in death.
Me: I usually say "as long as we both shall live."
Her: Oh, can we change that? I mean, you can live a long time and we all know that people fall out of love with each other. Can we change live, to love?
Me: Okay, so you want me to say "as long as we both shall love."
Her: Yeah, I mean, let's be real here.
Friday, September 9, 2011
Monday, July 25, 2011
... and sometimes it's the celebrant that makes the faux pas!
There is a part of a wedding ceremony, where The Bride and The Groom look at each other and repeat vows to each other as prompted by the marriage celebrant. They go something like this (I'll use "Bride" and "Groom" where actual names should be):
I, Bride,
take you, Groom,
to be my wedded husband.
To have and to hold
from this day forward
for better, for worse
for richer, for poorer
in sickness, and in health
I promise to love you,
Cherish you,
And be faithful to you,
For as long as we both shall live.
The amount of words I say for them to repeat at one time often depends on their nervousness, and in the case of non-native-English speakers, their comfort with English. Sometimes I break the last line up in to much smaller pieces ... "for as long" ... "as we both" ... "shall live." Sometimes, I don't. Sometimes, I wish I had.
Recently, while performing a ceremony for non-native English speakers, after having the English-as-a-second-language Bride repeat "for as long as we both shall live" ... I followed with "I was afraid that might be too long" meaning the number of words for her comfort level with English, not for the period of time they should love & live.
Thankfully it was just the 3 of us and they both had a good sense of humor.
For the record, she did just fine. I wish I could say the same for me.
I, Bride,
take you, Groom,
to be my wedded husband.
To have and to hold
from this day forward
for better, for worse
for richer, for poorer
in sickness, and in health
I promise to love you,
Cherish you,
And be faithful to you,
For as long as we both shall live.
The amount of words I say for them to repeat at one time often depends on their nervousness, and in the case of non-native-English speakers, their comfort with English. Sometimes I break the last line up in to much smaller pieces ... "for as long" ... "as we both" ... "shall live." Sometimes, I don't. Sometimes, I wish I had.
Recently, while performing a ceremony for non-native English speakers, after having the English-as-a-second-language Bride repeat "for as long as we both shall live" ... I followed with "I was afraid that might be too long" meaning the number of words for her comfort level with English, not for the period of time they should love & live.
Thankfully it was just the 3 of us and they both had a good sense of humor.
For the record, she did just fine. I wish I could say the same for me.
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